Have you tried everything to accomplish your goal? Are you following the best advice – sticking to it, imagining success, dividing your tasks into chunks? If that’s working for you and you’re making progress, pat yourself on the back and stop reading now. You’re on the right track.
But if you’re doing everything “right” and still feel like your train is sliding backwards down the mountain, here’s a thought: STOP IT!
Why not consider a new idea? What if the problem is not that you’re not trying hard enough? What if the problem is that you’ve been doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result? Isn’t that one definition of insanity? Even if you’re using different methods, going after the same goal again and again IS doing the same thing.
I recently revitalized my “get fit” campaign and I’m going to share the secret with you. Are you ready?
Abandon your goal.
That’s right. Let it go. Give it up. Quit. Don’t just do it. Go back to bed.
Go ahead. You have my permission. Go lie down.
Are you there now? Good. Now, let it all go. Let go of that feeling of failure and frustration. And just breathe. Give yourself permission to take the time to re-evaluate where you are and where you want to go.
Be honest with yourself. Is your goal possible? Is it healthy? Is it possible that you’re getting more out of NOT achieving your goal than you would by achieving it?
Or is your goal simply not juicy enough? If you’re setting out to do something difficult, you need to be motivated. The reward has to be satisfying and fulfilling and delicious enough to get you going. OR the cost of not succeeding has to be so high it will just about destroy you. Or both.
If, when I suggested abandoning your goal, your first thought was, “Oh, thank goodness,” then that goal may not be powerful enough. On the other hand, if you thought, “No way – I’ve GOT to do this!” then maybe you just need to tweak it a little.
Is there something you’ve been trying to do because you think you should do it, but the whole process has become a chore? See what happens when you give yourself permission just to breathe. Feel. Stop judging yourself by your aspirations and let in inspiration. Notice what you find yourself thinking, dreaming, desiring.
Tune in next week for the second half of this goal post: the goal that got away.